There's always going to be things that you're worried about when you move schools, we know... we remember! Here's your chance to air some of those worries , dilemmas or embarrassing questions.

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I am really scared about going into 7m at the cottesloe because the people are humungus and i am tiny for my age.

Some people do judge a person by what they look like on the outside, even though we know that what really matters is what a person is like on the inside. Try to be brave, remember the story of David and Goliath from the Bible? David was really little and really young but he trusted God to help him beat Goliath, who was big and mean, and God did!

Hi!You came to my school.I loved wot u did.I am really worried about going to sev=condary school cause I have ginger hair so i am scared i will get bullied cause of it.I will miss my friends loads!!!

Please don't be worried about your ginger hair. Ginger hair rocks!

on my visit to my new school i was embarrassed and scared to put my hand up to say something cause i am very very very quiet in class because there are lots and lots of people in my class. What should i do ??  can u help me??

It is difficult when we are shy and lack the confidence to say things in class, but don't give up trying. Perhaps you could try some of the following: a) if you're question is really important but you are too shy to ask in class, ask the teacher at the end of the lesson as everyone is leaving. Once you feel more confident with the teachers, then you will feel happier about asking them during the class b) Try formulating the question or answer and practice saying it in your head before you put your hand up c) Write down any questions you have during the course of the lesson, and see which ones are answered as the lesson proceeds, if you still have some left at the end then you can try a) or b)! d) practice speaking out loud in the quiet of your own bedroom, working out how to make your voice sound loud and confident e) Don't worry, as you make more friends and settle in to your new school, it won't feel nearly as daunting.

i am scared because i think i might lose contact with my mates. what do i do.

I have to sit next to this really wierd boy who asks me loads of personal questions (e.g what size shoe i am etc)he's sooooooooooo anoying and creepy i just want him away from me!! :(

If you feel that the questions are too personal, you don't have to answer them. He is probably just trying to start a conversation, but isn't quite sure how to go about it. Give him a bit of a break, and I am sure that things will settle down, and he will stop being quite so 'creepy'. How about asking him some questions to find out a bit about him, you never know, he might be alright underneath, just a bit nervous, etc. If however, you don't find the nice guy underneath, and his questions continue to make you feel uncomfortable, then have a chat with your form tutor.

Will the high school allow the wristbands that u gave us??

With regard to the wrist bands, we are advising people to put them on their bags, that way, if one of the teachers is really against them, then no one gets in trouble!

At my secondary school i am worried about the science lessons. i faint quiet easily and i am scared that it will happen at the high. wat shall i do??

Don't worry about science, unfortunately a lot of what you do is sitting down at desks, looking at books! If it is standing for a long time that makes you feel faint, then make sure you ask your grown ups to write a letter to the school, and try and get a seat at the front when the teacher is doing a class demonstration and wants everyone to gather round. Most science labs have tall stools so you can always use these to lean on. If it is the sight of blood, then again, don't worry because most dissection is done on flowers and things like that! The school usually gives warning if they are going to do animal dissection so this will give you an opportunity to talk to your teacher about how best to deal with it. Above make the most of finding out just how amazing the world we live in is, and don't worry.

I'm worried that i might be late for a class on the first day and i might get lost.

You might get lost, but for the first week or so, the teachers are aware that year sevens don't know their way around, so are normally pretty lenient. If your new school has a buddy system, make sure that you make full use of that. If not, then look out for those young people who have got a purple wrist band, they will help you find your way to the right place. It does seem daunting right now, but after a couple of days, you will know where everywhere is.

I really like it but i am kind of nervous that if i get lost on the first day my mum keeps telling its going to be alright but i'm not sure

It's only natural to feel nervous about something like this. Just remember that everyone else in year seven will be as nervous as you, and will not know their way around the school yet, so you won't be the only one. Sometimes Mums do get things right, and this time your Mum really is... it will be alright, even if it doesn't feel like it now, it will, and soon you will be showing the new year sevens around!

my boyfriend is going to the same secondary school as me but i'm worried that he might find someone else from a different school and i think he might forget were together after the school holidays what shall i do.

It can be a worry that things are going to change too much as the summer holidays draw to an end and we go to our new school. But the end of the holidays is nearly two months away, so don't ruin now by worrying about then. Enjoy the last few days of your time at primary school and enjoy everyday of the holidays, taking each day as it comes. Things may change with your boyfriend, but worrying about it is not going to stop that, so just enjoy having him around now, and wait and see what new friendships come along at secondary school

hi, loads of people at my school think that i am the boy taker what should i do ??

Either they are right, and you may need to think about how you behave with their boyfriends, or maybe they are just saying these things to hurt you - only you can know the truth. Relationships with boyfriends/girlfriends are fun, and as you get older, they will become more important. But what will be longer lasting and more valuable (especially as you start a new school) are your friendships. So it is really important that you sort out this issue with your friends, by talking to them; finding out how they are feeling, and explaining calmly how you are feeling.
Remember we talked about how we communicate with our bodies (non-verbal communication), some people are better at it than others! Think about the clues that you are giving with your non-verbal communication, do you need to do less 'flirting' to get rid of this reputation?

loads of boys at my new school have asked me out and i keep telling them NO, I'm already taken. but they keep coming back!!! what shall i do?

Stick to your guns, without being nasty. Perhaps you could tell them that although you don't want to be their girlfriend you won't mind being their friend. As you start at a new school, it is best to make as many friends (boys and girls) as possible to start off with and then see which one stand the test of time. But don't let yourself be forced into taking a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship that you don't want.

I'm not sure whether i like any of the girls in my form and whether i'll make a group of friends or a best friend. what do u think i should do?

It is very hard to know people from a very brief time together, and I am sure that on move up day everyone else was as nervous as you were, and probably not showing their real selves. So don't worry there is bound to be someone in your new form who will share the same interests as you and is just waiting for a new friend. When you start in September, talk to as many people as possible and don't worry if you don't make best friends straight away, a good friendship takes time to grow. Just try to be a cheerful and 'real' as you can.

All the bigger kids push you around and im afraid to say somthing incase they swear at me or something.

The bigger kids have not right to push you around and the school would be very unhappy if they knew that this kind of things was going on. Remember what we said about body language, try to look cool and confidant on the outside even if you don't feel it on the inside. The big kids should soon get the message that you are not going to be pushed around. If it continues then you must tell someone. The teachers will deal with it so you don't need to worry about it.

i like my new school but i don't think i'll fit in as i like working, writing and reading i'm afraid to become a teacher's pet.

There is nothing wrong with liking reading and writing and studying. The great thing about secondary schools is that as they are larger there are more different types of people and I am sure that you will find some people who also like the things you do. Just remember to take your time and talk to as many different people as possible

Wat if no-one likes you in ur new skl?

This is a real worry for a lot of people, but it needn't be, when you arrive at your new school everybody will be feeling the same. The thing to do is to be friendly to everyone and see which people you really click with. Remember being friendly doesn't necessarily mean being loud and noisy, it means being kind and interested in other people. So you can always use your five questions to get to know people and find out more about them. You are much more likely to make and keep new friends if people feel that you really care and are interested in them.

I might be moving to Whitchurch and I have to get a bus to my secondary school if I do. where Ilive now is easy because I only have to go round the corner and I'm there, but if I do have to move I'm worried about if I forget my bus times. there is a school bus straight there though. but I'm scared all my friends are gonna go out without me and won't invite me anywhere, what should i do?

Although it is difficult to do, there is no point worrying about things that might or might not be happening. It is worth talking to your parents about how you feel about this move, but remember that they are trying to make the best decision for the whole family! Bus times, etc are always a worry, but make sure you write them down and have them in your school bag, just to remind you if you forget. There is always the chance you will meet new cool friends, whichever bus you catch! Nearly every school in Aylesbury has pupils from all around the area, so lots of people will be in the same boat as you, and will be worried that no one will invite them out, because they don't live near to them. You always have MSN etc, but if you want to meet your friends somewhere centrally then if you start doing the inviting I am sure they will invite you back. Aylesbury Vale Youth for Christ runs several things that will help you to meet your friends, check out the link from this website. Plus Holy Trinity runs Pathfinders for 11-14s every other Friday night

How do i know if Aylesbury High school allow the wristbands??

We are waiting for a reply from the High about wrist bands at the moment, and will put it on the website as soon as we know. If you are unsure what to do then stick it on your bag or pencil case.

How can I get someone to be my friend?

You can't make someone be your friend, but I am sure that lots of people will choose to be your friend if you are friendly and kind. Try to talk to as many people as possible but make sure you ask them questions about themselves and really listen to the answers. If you are really stuck for something to say, remember the five questions we asked! Growing a friendship takes time, but quite often the friends people make at secondary school are friends for life, so it is worth waiting!

Hi you visited are school yesterdayit was fantastic! thanks for the book and wristband. i am really scared bout getting lost at my new school!

Glad you enjoyed our visit. Please don't worry about getting lost, you will be amazed at how quickly you will learn to find your way around!

I'm realy worried about making friends, everyone says it will be o.k but that dosent help.

Making friends can seem like a daunting prospect but remember that most of the people in your class will be in the same position as you, and all desperate to make new friends. Friendships can take time to grow just like a plant. The best plan is to plant lots of seeds by being friendly to as many people as possible and wait to see which relationships grow into really good friendships. Please don't spoil your holiday by worrying but take the time to enjoy the company of those around you who already know you and love you.

Is secondary school harder than primary school?

In some ways Secondary School can be harder than Primary School. And in other ways it's easier! You may find you get more homework, and that you're learning about things you haven't tackled before. But you will also find that you quickly adjust to new ways of learning and keeping hold of newly learnt information. It's your teacher's job to help you with this - so don't worry! You will also find that as you go through Secondary School you will have more and more freedom to choose when you learn, do homework, revise, relax and chill. Oh - and because you're going to meet loads of new people in your yeargroup, you will probably find it easier to make new friends and socialise!

My new school has lockers like in American schools which is really cool, the trouble is my friends say that I am really ditzy and I am worried about losing my key. What should I do?

If your key has a number on it make sure you write this down as soon as you get it, so that you can use this to get another one. The school office normally supplies new keys but this will probably cost you money. Why not ask for a new key ring as a 'starting secondary school' present or one of those cords that you can put round your neck for mobile phones

My parents run a chip shop which is very busy in the evenings and I often have to help out or look after my baby brother. How am I going to cope with getting all my homework done?

The amount of homework given out depends on your school and how much you get done in class. Talk to your parents and explain that you do need to get your homework done as well as see your friends, etc. If you tell them that you are willing to help out and don't want to let them down then I am sure that they will be flexible, if you scream and shout and don't do it, they might be less so. They obviously think you are responsible enough to look after your brother so show them just how responsible you are by working through this with them. You can always do your homework in the library at lunch time one day a week or perhaps your school has an afterschool homework club. Remember the sooner you get it done, the better!

I hate, hate, hate the colour of my new school uniform, its gross but my Mum says I have to wear it. Its not fair!

Its not fair but your Mum is right. Most schools insist that their uniform is worn and give out punishment if it isn't. I s'pose the only consolation is everyone else will be wearing the same gross colour! If you feel that strongly about it, why not join the school council and see if you can get it changed?